Wednesday, May 30, 2012

Dad’s way isn’t wrong

Woman believe that they are the better parent.  Is it because as a child they were playing with dolls dreaming of being a Mom while we were playing with trucks pretending to be construction workers.  Moms seem to be better planned on events then Dad’s giving them the perspective of being the superior parent.  The problem is that Dad’s way of unplanned events is just as important by giving kids other ways to tackling problems.  

My wife insist on dressing the kids before going in public otherwise they may not match and leave the home with messed up hair.  This is important in life to dress the part and be organized but most of the time life isn’t perfect and Dad’s imperfection gives children the ability to adapt to situation and handle problems.  Dads and Moms are like Yin and Yang they both need each other to create peace.  We are different creatures and can learn from each others strengths.
At the park you will see Dad’s sitting back on the bench watching their children while mothers are in and on the playground with their children.  Moms are showing that they are there to help while a father’s method is giving the child the ability to explore which helps develop their curiosity and independence.  Too much of anything is damaging and this goes for the same with parenting finding the happy medium is very hard when talking about your offspring.  Mothers are always going to be the child’s favorite when in need of comfort but when wanting to play Dad’s rule.  Men and women have been trying to understand each other for years while men think that women are overbearing.  Women think men are lazy and don’t care trusting too much in their little ones ability.  My son’s first day in kindergarten I was happy for him talking it up.  While my wife not only took the day off to walk him in but followed the bus to see him get off and make sure he didn’t need her.  I think it is sweet but at the same time kids need the space to grow.  I am constantly being reminded that they are more a part of her since she had to carry them.  I think that men just show their emotions different.
In the workplace men are more stable to raise their hand and ask for a raise then women would be.  I believe this goes back to how Dad’s play with their children.  At the park my daughter climbed up on some bars and hung upside down by her legs.  I stood there and watched and encouraged her for taking such a risk.  While I guarantee a mom would be there asking them to get down before they get hurt.  I guess as a Dad I believe that I could catch her before she fell or be there to patch her up.
Us men do not believe in multitasking and seem to focus on one task at a time.  It may be fixing a bicycle or watching a ball game while the wife she is surfing the net, replying to emails, making dinner, while watching one of her per-recorded shows.  This to me seems way more stressful and causes unwanted breakdowns or overloads that are not needed.  We men also believe in taking “me time” form the kids while moms have a harder time doing this always putting the time on the back burner which also can cause more stress.  The solution to this is delegating some of the family workloads to the spouse.  My wife doesn’t let me do laundry, grocery shopping or anything that she believes she can do better.  Trusting that Dads can do it just as good just different is hard to accept and is why men are better at delegating work.  

The last difference that I have noticed is how competition is handled.  Mom’s want all of their children to have a fair chance while dads strive for competition.  It would be nice if in life everything was fair but it isn’t.  I think that I learned this lesson as a little boy in sports knowing that not everyone is a winner.  This helps in keeping the drive in the work place not expecting to be recognized for my work or giving settle hints in the hopes for others to be mined readers but by asking and proving loudly why I should be promoted to a position.  If turned down not to take it personal since not every time you win.  This difference in method seems to work better in the work place and helps prepare oneself for the failures that due occur in life.  You should also be cautious about doing this too much son not to sound ungrateful of your position.

So you can see Dad’s way isn’t always wrong it is just different.  Dads are just as important in helping prepare a young one for life and good habits.  Mom’s way is usually the more ethical way along with being safer then Dad’s but we just know how to have fun while doing it.

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